November is National Caregiver's Month
Read on to learn about My Gift for You, exclusively, Saturday, November 10th through Monday, November 12th, 2018.
If you are one of the 16 Million in the U.S. caring for a loved one with dementia, then you know that caring for someone with any form of this disease creates profound life changes. So, too, does caregiving for loved ones with any number of other circumstances where they can no longer manage on their own. The latest research says that close to 60 Million of us play a caregiving role in our country today.
November is a well-deserved month of recognition for the selfless role you have shouldered.
If you know someone who cares for a loved one give them a high-five, a pat on the back, a hearty thank you, or better yet, give of yourself. Give them a few hours respite, time to themselves to get a haircut, to wander through a park, to go to an exercise class, or time to just plain sit, read, and think- knowing that you have picked up the caregiving ball, if only for a brief time.
I recently returned from a second month spending nearly half time at my sister and brother-in law’s home in the Midwest where we filled our days and through the nights juggling the compulsive new Lewy Body Dementia-driven behaviors of my dear 93-year-old Mom.
I used to care for Mom here in Florida, until we evacuated our hometown during Hurricane Irma. But for a year now, she has lived in a memory care facility a few miles from where my oldest sister and her family reside. When Mom fell in September, cracking her pelvis in two places, the benefits of Mom living close to my sister, who is a nurse were clearly obvious.
My sister, with some assistance from the rest of us siblings, navigated Mom through two hospital stays and weeks in a rehab facility, then two weeks in my sister’s home.
( I know, Mom looks good for a 93 year old who just went through all that… doesn’t she!)
Finally, after some harrowing weeks, Mom’s situation stabilized, and we were able to move her back to her memory care apartment where, thankfully, the staff was far more equipped to handle Mom’s newly developed idiosyncrasies than we were. (She began to wander compulsively from room to room, from couch, to bed, to couch, and back again, over and over and over every 2 – 3 minutes.)
Those two week stints in Indiana reminded me how important it is for siblings and other relatives to recognize the sacrifices that caregivers make to ensure the well-being of their loved ones. And they reminded me how important the little things are.
· Grocery shopping and cooking a meal for the family,
· Taking a night shift sleeping on a cot in your loved one’s room to quell night terrors,
· Preparing your loved one’s lunch
· Helping with your loved one’s shower
Small gestures can give the primary caregiver a vital breather, allowing them to take time for a little self-care, something essential to set each day on a positive note. Caring for one with dementia-based delusions is definitely not a one person job.
My Gift to You
So, in honor of each of you who are caregivers, and the often invisible work you do every day, I want to gift you with our story, a memoir of my mom and me.
Walking My Momma Home:
Finding Love, Grace and Acceptance through the Labyrinth of Dementia.
I have arranged for your FREE eBook to be available exclusively
Saturday, November 10th ( my birthday.) through Monday, November 12th.
To download your free copy, simply click this link this coming weekend.
My hope is that by walking along side us on our journey together, you will not feel so alone.
Tell me your own caregiving story. Here’s how you can reach me.
And, may God bless you on your own caregiving path.
…Finding Light in Our Second Life